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My Financial Contradiction
For as long as I can remember, I've had a curious relationship with money. On one hand, I've almost always excelled at generating income – whether bringing in new business for our company or securing better-paying positions when needed. The ability to create financial opportunities has never been my challenge.
Yet I've found myself caught in a persistent cycle: money flows in, and just as reliably, it flows out. Despite my knack for earning, the art of managing and retaining wealth has remained frustratingly elusive. This contradiction became impossible to ignore as I looked at my financial position: strong income, persistent debt, and limited accumulated wealth.
The Mental Models That Shape Our Financial Lives
This personal realization led me down a path of exploration into the psychology of money. As Morgan Housel brilliantly articulates in his book "The Psychology of Money" [[1]], financial success isn't just about what you know—it's about how you behave. And behavior is hard to teach, even to really smart people.
Our relationship with money isn't purely mathematical. It's deeply psychological, shaped by our personal histories, the stories we tell ourselves, and often unconscious beliefs we've carried since childhood.
Unearthing My Money Scripts
In "Mind Over Money" [[2]], psychologists Brad and Ted Klontz introduce the concept of "money scripts" – unconscious beliefs about money we develop early in life that drive our financial behaviors as adults.
Reflecting on my own patterns, I identified my dominant script: "Money is meant to be spent." This belief served me well in business development, where investing in relationships and opportunities yielded returns. However, it undermined my ability to build lasting wealth.
This script manifested in specific behaviors:
- Treating income increases as opportunities to expand my lifestyle rather than my investments
- Making impulsive financial decisions without systematic evaluation
- Prioritizing immediate business needs over long-term personal financial stability
Building an Asset Portfolio: From Cash Flow to True Wealth
My financial awakening came with the realization that true wealth isn't measured by income, but by owning assets that appreciate and generate passive income. As Robert Kiyosaki emphasizes in "Rich Dad Poor Dad" [[3]], the wealthy don't work for money; they make money work for them.
This concept resonates with me, though we're not there yet. We're gradually building a diversified asset portfolio:
Real Estate: Though we currently rent, we're considering purchasing a home when market conditions are favorable. While Kiyosaki argues that one's primary home is actually a liability (not an asset), it provides stability and can eventually return value over time. Once we're established, rental properties will be our focus for building significant wealth.
Stocks: We're investing in quality companies through index funds and dividend-paying stocks for both growth potential and passive income. The approach is methodical rather than speculative – focusing on companies with strong fundamentals rather than chasing market sentiment.
Precious Metals: A portion of our portfolio goes to gold and silver as inflation hedges and portfolio insurance. During economic uncertainty, these physical assets historically maintain purchasing power when paper assets falter.
Cryptocurrency: Despite their volatility, digital assets like Bitcoin and XRP represent a growing allocation in our portfolio. Being a "Hodler" (hold for the long term or literally "Hold On for Dear Life"), we've seen promising development despite the market's ups and downs.
This multi-asset approach addresses my psychological blind spot: valuing income over ownership. By redirecting focus from earning to acquiring and holding assets, I'm building wealth that works for me rather than the reverse.
Confronting the Debt Challenge
An honest assessment of my financial journey wouldn't be complete without addressing debt. Despite my income-generating abilities, I've accumulated a sizable amount of debt that has proven challenging to eliminate.
Our family has committed to a disciplined approach, making regular payments above the minimum required, and gradually reducing our debt load. This process has revealed another psychological insight: the same optimism that serves me well in business can lead to overconfidence in financial planning. I've had to learn that debt elimination isn't about dramatic gestures but consistent, unglamorous progress – much like weight loss, it's about the daily decisions more than the occasional heroic effort.
Each debt payment represents reclaiming a piece of our future freedom. The progress is slower than I'd like, but it's steady, and that's what matters.
The Transformation Process
My current focus is rewiring these deep-seated beliefs. Drawing insights from James Clear's "Atomic Habits" [[4]], I've implemented small but significant changes:
- Creating automated systems that convert income into assets before I can spend it
- Implementing a 72-hour rule for any non-essential purchase over $200
- Dedicating time each month to review my asset growth and adjust my acquisition strategy
These aren't dramatic changes, but they're shifting the trajectory of our financial future through consistency. More importantly, they're changing our mindset and relationship with money.
The Road Ahead
This journey from earner to debt-free asset builder continues to be a work in progress. I don't have all the answers, and our financial position is far from perfect. But I've learned that financial transformation isn't just about information—it's about aligning our behaviors with our long-term objectives.
The mindset shift from active income generation to purposeful wealth building through strategic asset ownership represents my current chapter. By bringing conscious awareness to several unconscious beliefs that have shaped my financial life, I'm gradually replacing reactive patterns with intentional strategies.
What unconscious beliefs might be shaping your financial reality? The first step toward transformation is simply becoming aware of the stories we tell ourselves about money and wealth.
What financial patterns have you noticed in your own life? Share your insights in the comments below.
